How to Win an Argument Even When You Lose, Julian Short
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Julian Short

How to Win an Argument Even When You Lose

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Anđela Vujinović
Anđela Vujinovićцитирует4 месяца назад
, as we can find ourselves agreeing and doing nothing to avoid confrontation, or saying ‘yes’ when we really should say ‘no
Anđela Vujinović
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To feel good about yourself, you need to feel you have a presence in the world. You need a sense of place, of some influence and a belief that you have a degree of control over the events of your life.
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We need the skills to define our individuality and to get as much of our own way as possible while preserving the warmth of our relationships.
Anđela Vujinović
Anđela Vujinovićцитирует4 месяца назад
Our problems flow from the difficulty in managing a trade-off between being nice enough to belong and yet powerful enough to stand up for ourselves.
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Being aggressively certain that you are right when you are wrong is guaranteed to earn you that title.
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Everybody tries to win and there’s nothing wrong with that, but there are good and not so good ways to go about it. Even if we do manage to win an argument or get things to go our way, if no one likes us, we won’t be all that happy with the outcome.
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Abusive, vulgar or exaggerated words draw attention to themselves and detract from your argument
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To argue well you need both structure and direction, with a clear view of your goal.
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‘This is your idea, as I understand it. I also see your position must be reasonable because you are a reasonable person, but I feel another way of looking at it might be…[short, clear explanation of your view], verbal full stop.’
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Strongly emotional words draw attention to themselves rather than to your ideas. For high impact, use low-impact words.
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there is not much chance it will be accepted with further repetition.
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attack the argument or the behaviour, not the person.
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you don’t force someone into defending himself against your attack, he might just listen to you.
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Don’t signal it, say it. If you are angry or hurt, say it with words, not actions.
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Other people’s respect doesn’t require you to be right, but it does require that you be wrong or right gracefully
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does require that you be wrong or right gracefully.
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your way of approaching it may
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kindness and dignity are the two ingredients by which we judge the worth of another person,
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your evolutionary programming says it is dangerous not to be liked.
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moral or spiritual territory of what you believe to be true, right and fair
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